What we feel as an affront often reveals a blessing.
At least once a day we are affronted by another’s actions or reactions, which we feel are directed unfairly at us or the people who are important to us.
This hits hard and fast, an involuntary reaction to the incongruence or validity of the affront, the action or opinion we feel is not fair, warranted or unwelcome.
We are then triggered into emotional confusion feeling hurt, angry, indignant or resentful and on introspection we feel that our good intentions, beliefs or integrity have been unfairly scrutinised and considered lacking.
For every negative there is a positive and while one person is feeling positive about their conclusions or actions the other disagrees feeling the affront is negative. Who is wrong and who is right as both feel the other as being incorrect?
First we must put aside the introspective dialogue that drives our feelings. What did I do? – How could they? – They have me all wrong. – This is not fair; because when in the throes of negative emotion we are usually unaware of the considerable amount of time spent on nonproductive reverie and while relishing the discord we are only embellishing the negative flow.
What first? Reassess the situation as a whole, asking what is the positive message being presented.
“We never know what another person is feeling or what their intentions truly are and can only surmise, not a true version of the whole, only our version as we feel it.."
I know, easier said than done. Here’s a tip; every time you recede into negative dialogue stop and think 'SO I SAY'. We never know what another person is feeling or what their intentions truly are and can only surmise, directed by our hurt, blame, guilt or resentment, which is not a true version of the whole, only our version of the truth as we feel it.
Ask yourself with your feelings and the perceived intentions of the other person aside: What is the positive in this situation and how can I develop it? Every emotional interruption is an opportunity to reveal, acknowledge and release, which is a blessing.
It's worth the effort as positive change emancipates the direction that the soul inspires.
©Lisa Holmes 2012 / My Brilliance®